Power Of Positive Coaching!

the power of positive coaching

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Years ago, I wrote a small article on some of the obstacles, joys and pitfalls in effective coaching. After all, achieving results — long term and short term — is what it is all about. As smoeone once said, ” we pay you for results… not for trying.” The obvious is inexcapable.

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The role of a coach is similar to that of a parent or teacher.  Our common goal in these roles is to prod, motivate, and cajole youth to “be all they can be,” to borrow the Army’s slogan.  We’re not in a popularity contest, but there are both positive and negative ways to achieve our goals.  All we need is a little psychology.  In the United States, we have an unfortunate cultural tendency to ignore good behavior.  After all, we’re such good parents, coaches, and teachers that we’re ENTITLED to good behavior.  The problem with ignoring good behavior or performance is that it will undergo what psychologists refer to as “extinction.”  In extinction, unrewarded behavior simply stops.  At the same time, we tend to really pay attention to negative behaviors.  Attention can be a very positive outcome for young people, and our attention may actually increase the behaviors we want to reduce. 

 

Utilizing the Psychology of Motivation

 

How do we apply these principles to the coaching situation?  First of all, to be a good motivator, your opinion must matter to your athletes.  If they don’t care what you think of them, you’re not going to be very effective.  The key here is mutual respect.  Coaches who demonstrate respect for athletes will have their undivided attention.  Coaches who belittle and demean their athletes will be tuned out eventually.  Female athletes are especially sensitive to criticism.  The types of comments that males just take in stride can be devastating to a female athlete.  It’s also essential to be a good listener.  Many of today’s youth do not have adults in their lives with the time and inclination to really listen to them.  If you take that time to show you care how they’re doing in school and out of sports, you will have a much better idea of what makes your athletes “tick,” and they will view you as being on their side.  You will also gain the attention of your athletes if you are a regular source of positive feedback.  All young people do good things some of the time–catch them being good and make a big deal out of it!  It may be an athletic achievement, or just that they showed consideration to a teammate.  If you want them to do it again, let them know you appreciate it. 

CONCEPT 1
 
— Part of this process is setting realistic short-term goals. Goals that can be reached with a reasonable amount of effort in a short time are key. Goals can be set daily, weekly and seasonally. A reasonable question to ask any athlete is “where do you want to be by the end of the season?” From this point shorter and smaller goals can be set to reach the eventual goal. In field events, the concept of “inch by inch is a cinch” is the driving concept here.
 
     

 

Finding an Effective Carrot

 

Now that we have their attention, how do we specifically use rewards to motivate better commitment and performance?  Coaches influence better performance through the process of “shaping” (the scientific term is the “method of successive approximations”).  In a nutshell, shaping means that you gradually raise the bar for obtaining praise and rewards.  We start novices by praising them for being alive and standing up on two feet! Seriously, at the outset, we have very broad criteria for gaining praise.  As the athlete progresses through skill levels, we become very gradually stingier and stingier with our praise and approval.  The tricky part is to know when to ask an athlete for more.  This is like walking a tightrope, and a mastery of this skill separates the truly great coaches from the ‘wannabes’.  If you are too free with praise, the athlete is not motivated enough to improve.  They’re feeling just fine at their current level of performance.  Try withholding your approval a little bit at this point and the athlete will immediately start searching for ways to regain it.  If you don’t praise enough, the athlete will get discouraged and stop trying.  Go back to square one and start praising the most important things they’re doing right, and they should get back on track.

CONCEPT 2
 
— Finding the right “carrot” is important. In my own experience, I once scratched a line in the dirt for a shot putter as a challenge. If he threw over the line, I would buy him all the Big Macs he could eat. Food was his life. I was shocked at how much he could eat! Soon, everyone wanted the same deal. It was a very successful and expensive year.

In addition, the successful coach knows each athlete very well, recognizes plateaus in performance, and caters approval and praise and reward to the individual.  It’s also very helpful to keep your athlete in touch with reality–subscribe to publications that list outstanding performances, watch your local and state lists, let your athletes know where they stand relative to everybody else.  There’s nothing worse than thinking you’re the greatest because you’re the state champion, when you don’t even make the national lists!

Using a Stick Carefully!

 

Not all the news we have to deliver to athletes is good news.  Once in awhile, an athlete will really have a disastrous performance that just can’t be ignored.  There are ways of making “correction” more palatable, however.  Instead of launching into a diatribe on flaws and faults, begin your discussion with a summary of what went right.  Something, even if it’s a minor thing, always goes right. 

CONCEPT 3

— By starting off on a positive note, you reaffirm your role as being in the athlete’s corner, and whatever corrections have to be delivered will come across as more constructive. 

Use objective methods, such as reviewing films, to make your points whenever possible.  You can’t argue with a camera, and there’s less need for face saving on the part of the athlete.  If you’re angry, wait until you’re calm to have your discussion.  Above all, the athlete doesn’t need your exasperation and despair in the middle of competition.  Nobody performs their best when they’re being yelled at.  It helps to remind ourselves that this is all about the kids–it’s their performance, not ours.  It may be difficult, as one of my friends related, to see your career being dribbled down court by an 18 year old, but the coach’s success is entirely secondary to the athletes’.

CONCEPT 4

–Our eventual goal is to make each athlete a ‘student’ of his/her events.  By modeling effective analysis of performance, and soliciting the athlete’s views, we are teaching our athletes important athletic and life skills.  The sign of a truly effective program is in the success of its athletes once they go on to the college level.

 

Becoming a Cheerleader at Competition

 

CONCEPT 5 

— Here, the teacher becomes a cheerleader.  The athletes are as prepared as they’re ever going to be when they enter the stadium.  This is not a time for last minute adjustments of form and technique.  Perceptual motor patterns operate at their best when they are on “cruise control.”       

 

Too much thinking about last minute advice will bring the automatic patterns back up to the conscious level, and everything the athlete does will slow down.  If you must fix something, try to restrict your comments to one area — in working with shot-putters you might focus on keeping their shoulders down in the middle of the ring, for instance.  Instead, a coach should focus on activating the athletes’ “fight/flight” sympathetic nervous system, which will provide the burst of energy our ancestors depended on for their very survival.  People really can do amazing feats like lifting cars off children when they are sufficiently motivated.  There are many ways to do this.  One of the most interesting is the “haka” used by New Zealand rugby squads.  By adapting traditional Maori prewar rituals, the New Zealanders recreate the “emergency” mindset needed for top performance, and they manage to scare their opponents half to death at the same time!  The functions of brain and body are intertwined–by assuming the facial expressions and postures of the prewar rituals, the athletes are telling their brains that an emergency situation exists.  The brain responds by shutting down low priority systems like digestion and putting all resources into heart, lungs, and muscle.  Outstanding performances are the result.

If possible, restrict your real instruction and feedback to the practice setting.  Your role at a competition is entirely different. 

 

Strengthening the Coach-Athlete Bond

 

In closing, we might remind ourselves that the coach-athlete relationship follows the rules of all human relationships. 

CONCEPT 6

— In successful relationships, positive interactions outnumber negative interactions by a factor of at least 5:1.  When positive and negative interactions approach a 1:1 ratio, the relationship is doomed.  Some of us are just naturally more positive people, but all of us can do a better job if we concentrate on bringing out our more positive sides.

CONCEPT 7

— You can strengthen the natural bond between you as the coach and your athletes by getting your veteran athletes involved in the ‘coaching’ process by assigning them mentoring responsibilities over the younger athletes. It is important to remember that before motivation can come from an athlete it must first come from the coach and the veteran athletes. It is the responsibility of the coach and the senior athletes to inspire and lead. You must provide the reason ‘why’ the young athlete wants to succeed.

 

It is important to realize that ‘motivation’ starts with having a dream. That dream may be as humble as earning a varsity letter or as grand as winning the Olympic Games. In either case, it is the responsibility of the coach and the veteran athletes to ‘inspire’ and provide support for the ‘dream’ within each of us. Good Luck in this great track season ahead.

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Roger Freberg

Speak Freely…. unless you’re in college

 
freedom of speech is our right

 

It may sound strange that we have the ability to speak freely everywhere in America…. except on many college campuses. I remember during my college days of the necessity of writing a ‘perfect marxist essay’ in order to pass a class.

Today, universities are not so easily fooled and many have enacted ‘speech codes’ and other restrictions to curtail opinions that they have interpreted to be ‘offensive.’

There is– fortunately– an organization that represents Americans attending or working in our colleges and universities against the intrusions of the ‘thought control police’.

Thanks to thefire.org — ‘defenders of individual rights in education’ — college life is becoming better for those who want to think for themselves. Here are a few of the latest subjects that you can explore on their site:

FIRE Warns Department of Health and Human Services Against Supporting Political Litmus Tests on Campus

FIRE in ‘The New York Times’ on Free Speech at Columbia

Marquette Bans Dave Barry Quote from Office Door

FIRE’s Challenge to Ideological Litmus Tests at Columbia’s Teachers College in the ‘New York Post’ and ‘Sun’

FIRE’s Challenge to Ideological Litmus Tests at Columbia’s Teachers College in the ‘New York Post’ and ‘Sun’

Speech Code of the Month: University of Mississippi

Anyway… step by step, the rights that we value in our great country are being reinstated…. even on college campuses…. check out their site… you can help!

 Roger Freberg

 

Matt Leinart… have you forgotten anything?

Matt leinartWell, at long last, Matt Leinart has become a father. The baby boy was named Cole and Matt handled the news like a public relations ace…

Matt said he was going to be a ‘good father’ and that the whole thing has been a great experience. He was even there for the birth.. I know he was there for the conception. Opps, here I go being judgemental.

I couldn’t have written better lines myself… the spin was right on … but now that you handled your first P.R. Nightmare well… where are you going from here?

I won’t be presumptuous by saying that you two should marry… because Ms. Brynn Cameron may have other ideas … but, let me say to you both that your child needs and deserves a full time mom and dad. Growing up is sooo hard to do.

Think about it… besides, Matt, hanging around with bimbos like Paris Hilton is so wrong on many levels. Aah, here I go giving unwanted advice and moralizing again.

Links to what others are saying:
Nose Job
AZ Central
NBC Sports
Matt the father … Paris Not the Mother
Matt was a Trojan but didn’t use one
Ladies Love Sports
LA Observed 

 

Roger Freberg

Student Apathy? … who says?

Gettnig a little help from our friends

 

 When you hear about teachers — college or high school — complain about ‘student apathy’… what they really are saying is,” hey, I can’t get these brats to agree with me or change their minds.’ boo hoo

Ralph Nader — lifetime weenie man — spoke to a virtually empty house at my alma mater recently… and folks trotted out the ‘student apathy’ line. If people wanted to hear him… they would come and no amount of ‘extra credit’ from professors seemed to help the attendance.

Take a trip on GOOGLE and you will find a large number of folks wringing their hands about the problem of student apathy… but what they don’t know is that life today is very different from the times of successful leftist rhetoric.. the late 60’s and early 70’s. The ideology of the left has failed.. and everyone knows it.  I also lived in those times and watched fellow college students travel from campus to campus stirring things up, looking for a party and leaving a mess… all the while sucking on momma and daddy. We paid our own way though college… it wasn’t easy.

Today’s youth is committed to the future… it belongs to them. Many young men have put off college and sought a masculine life denied them throughout school… the world belongs to them too. Let’s remember, the military is composed of ‘volunteers”… yep, ‘volunteerism’ is something the leftists preach, so one would think that joining the military would be cool with them… uh huh… riiight

Nader warned students — the few who attended — that “Politics will be onto you in a very vengeful manner.” Well, it doesn’t look too good for you, Ralph. I know, it isn’t easy benig green anymore.  Students are not quite so gullible… they ask their speakers, ” what are you going to do for me? How is anything you say going to make my life better? and… what’s it gonna cost me?”

Well, the world is changing , dude… get used to it.

Blogging : BOO HOOs

Crying from Ohio Journalist
Boo hoos from Harvard
Definition: Student Apathy — when you won’t do what I say

Roger Freberg

You’re a Football Widower? …hmmm…

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I found this site of a female football fan… yep, they do exist! I was lucky enough to marry one.

The funniest part of the posting was a curious ‘complaint’ from the husband (pictured above) of being a “football widower! Briefly, the guy goes to his doctor to see what  can be done about this ‘malady’… and finally the doctor asks,”does she have a sister?” Read it for yourself…

Anyway, I’ve blogged on this before.. “Sports… it’s a guy thing” . I pointed out how Eharmony.com seems to have tapped into the need for men to find women who love football… and not the ones who love to drag you to the mall and make their men watch the Oscars.

I had thought of posting blogs of ‘football widows’… but after reading a bunch of these bitter latte sucking mall rats… I thought I’d just pass. However… let’s look at a couple of blogs of real women who love football…

Girly Girl
BostonBrat
She can throw Chairs
Carolina Panthers Fan

Football keeps us together

 

 

And allow me to recognize a few of my family members who love football!

As you can see, we have a few ‘superfans’ her… they were at the game hours before it started!

So whether they are liberal or conservative… if they love football, they can’t be all bad.

 

Roger Freberg