Women’s Work is Never Done?

a man may work from sun to sun...Didn’t your mother teach you…‘a man may work from sun to sun… but a woman’s work is never done!”

They were and are wrong…. and they’re not alone. Roughly 70% of Sociologists ‘felt’ that women were shouldering the greater ‘burden.’ Sometimes fact is what you want it to be.

In a recent study by Burda, Hamermesh & Weil, overall American men work harder than American women. Are you surprised? Now that the ‘burden’ is shifting more evenly… women in America are sharing in some of blessings of equal work… shorter life expectancy, heart attacks and all the goodies associated with the stress of working ‘outside the home.’

Now, this is not to say that women aren’t carrying more than their load in more ‘civilized’ countries like Switzerland or Iran… but in the United States, men are doing a lot… it’s part of our heritage where it has for many folks always taken two pulling together to survive.

So…. how did I come to this discuss this wonderful unemotional topic?… Laura lobbed it over to me… I think she likes to stir things up?

Roger Freberg ( not working as hard as the average American male… and feeling Okay about it)

 

Virginia Tech & those preying amongst us

Okay, we are all reading about Virginia Tech… some folks like to rekindle various debates. These issues are distractions from some of the real challenges in colleges today.

The problem is that we have opened our colleges in the name of diversity, and this includes the mentally ill, the criminal and the dangerous.

The violent Virginia Tech student was a wacko ( sorry, am I being ‘judgmental? ). What is worse is that he was a ‘known’ wacko. ….. However, even known wack jobs have rights and thanks to the   ADA   his right and the rights of other mentally ill folks to go to college has been ensured and protected? You’ll never see a public list of rapists or fellons in your community… yep.. they have ‘rights’… but … I wonder … should they have more rights than your right to be safe or to know?

Here’s the problem facing schools today: colleges are ‘not allowed’ to discriminate against the known wackos who apply. This is no small problem. There is a wonderful story about a student at Cal Poly San Luis Obispo that couldn’t change out of his dorm room even though his roommate became ‘unstable and scary’…. when he forgot to take his ‘meds.’ Don’t complain to the university because they did not want to acknowledge the problem and the student was forced to continue to pay for his dorm room and live with friends off campus. Not a great solution.

Don’t worry, rumors have it that Cal Poly has a ‘plan’ should something like this ever happen there. The police are to immediately surround and protect the administration building. ok, but what about everyone else?

So, let’s say you are a professor at Cal Poly, you will not know if all of the ‘mentally ill’ in your class have taken their ‘meds’ … or if the ‘meds’ are doing the student any good? Could you imagine if a professor opening their class by asking: “do we have any violent offenders in class today?, rapists?, muggers?” Or…”anyone forget taking their meds?” The professor would probably get fired, tenured or not.

Part of the failure of Virginia Tech’s administration was letting this wacko into school and then letting him continue after incidents. Another part of the problem — in my humble opinion — was the campus police ‘cowardice’ in waiting for the swat team… and no small part of the problem is the teaching of our children to be ‘compliant’ and ‘cooperate’ even in the face of true evil. Teaching ‘courage’ now-a-days is a forgotten virtue.

There was one bright spot of honor and courage … the professor who stood up to the intruder by blockading his classroom door in order to give his students a chance to escape … he knew true evil when he saw it… afterall, he was a survivor of the holocaust and he has already seen that face before. He saved a lot of students that day even at the cost of his own life. I can only hope the students he saved can fully appreciated the gift he gave them and the cost he paid.

Courage is not in holding vigils and lighting candles… but in recognizing the ‘wackos’ in our world and taking actions to keep them subdued….. there are many lessons here…

Roger Freberg

Now down 59.6 lbs on Jenny Craig

Since early December 2006, down 59.6 lbs

It’s alway nice to be on a successful diet… I’ve been on millions of them over the years. However, the biggest challenge with most diets is that you run out of will power after such a short time. Jenny Craig has been great since I have a couple of great ways to fill up… an enormous salad with lunch and a lot of veggies at night. Top this off with a real dessert and it works.

My dietary plan is simple… I eat the same thing virtually every day. Cereal with fruit for breakfast, salad and turkey burger at lunch, veggies and meatloaf for dinner and chocolate cake for dessert. Oh, there are a few thnigs we’re allowed during the day… like sugarless jello and yogurt… so I never go hungry.

The ‘maintainence’ plan sounds good… so it seems like somethnig I can live with…. but that is still a ways off.

Roger Freberg

Dad’s Got Web Page!

with a little help from my family, I now have a new web page... finally!

Well, with a little help from my family… actually a lot of help… I finally have a new web page up for ol dad! I was starting to feel a little ‘dated’… and as my daughters say,”hobo.”

Karla took the picture of Laura and me and the the great background shot of the Monterey Bay aquarium… and since I do enjoy my family’s various interests and links, I added a few of theirs. Now, if only they would wear the web cam I gave them! Ha!

Roger Freberg

Jenny Craig…. I’m down 55 and the family down 160 lbs.

the NEW Roger and Laura 2007

What is it about going on a diet that makes you believe that you have always been slimmer? Yes, Laura and I have looked like this most of our married life (35 years this year)… but recently, well… let’s just say that Laura doesn’t want any ‘before’ pictures up… at least on my blog. Karla took this picture when we went to the Monterey Bay Aquarium on Wednesday.Today is ‘weigh-in’ day at Jenny Craig and this is a nice discipline… a fun routine where the proverbial ‘rubber meets the road.’ Will I be slimmer and by how much? Some folks and competitors say the ‘weigh-ins’ are just wrong… but those are folks who think of an entire pie as a single serving. You can’t lie to yourself when someone is looking over your shoulder…. besides it is fun.Karen’s weigh-in was yesterday in South Pasadena. She’s closing in on 60 lbs lost. Our weigh-in was this morning. Laura dropped a pound today and I slimmed down 3 more… As a family we have lost over 160 lbs and I have dropped about 55 lbs. (61 lbs counting my pre-Jenny drop).I’ve got 30 more to go.