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Can a couple be honest with each other? … Can you both take it?

Pregnant Angie with childAdvice from Women is just that and why do we expect any more than that? 

Today, I was reading an advice column about a woman who had an ‘active social life’ ; however, now, she is attracted to a man with no or little past experience. They have discussed what went on before they got together and she has been somewhat forthcoming… but incomplete. Here lies the understandable conflict. 

The female advice provider was basically taking the position that it is ‘none of his business’ regardless of how many ‘notches are on her belt.’ The ‘it’s his problem’ is a very typical comment by women of men as it absolves them of any responsibility in being open and honest. (It’s funny how some women who profess the need to be with men who will talk/listen to them… can suddenly become silent on subjects in which they lack self confidence, have guilt or fear rejection.)

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“Failure to Launch” is Funny, True and Preventable

Failure to Launch (French version)

If you haven’t seen “Failure to Launch”, you must see it.

Now, it’s not likely to win any Academy Awards – but then – who really wants those anyway? An Academy Award is given to folks so that they don’t feel like real losers even though their movie was a snoozer at the box office. I mean, when did a popular movie win ‘Best picture’? Hey, they’re bundling “Brokeback Mountain” with more popular movies at Best Buy hoping to move the crap.   

 Sorry, I digressed, back to “Failure to Launch”. This movie is about a young man (age 35) who is still living at home! Obviously, his folks want him to go and grow up … so they go through all kinds of stuff to get him move out. This is hilarious. They end up hiring a ‘professional interventionist’ to try to woo him out of the parent’s home, but it doesn’t work. As he says,” it’ll take a stick of dynamite to move me out of my parent’s home!” 

 I won’t give it all away, but for many parents this is way too close to home. We know folks who sold their big home and moved into a small one-bedroom apartment to escape the upcoming challenge! Some parents have even threatened to move without a forwarding address. And there are a few adult age children who even marry and have kids but never move away… but I think they are hanging around for the ‘old folks’ to ‘kick it’ as they also say in the movie. Also included — if you buy the DVD — are some minor ‘documentaries’ on the subject. The adult children — they interviewed — seem… troubled. Continue reading ““Failure to Launch” is Funny, True and Preventable”

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Your medical condition — be part of the solution!

 

Trust me... I am your doctor

“It’s just a little pill how could there be an adverse reaction?”

Well, that does seem to be the normal reaction from a disbelieving professional. However, the question remains: how good is the advice we are getting these days? Unfortunately, most people think that doctors are closer to god and wouldn’t give them a bum steer, unfortunately, some of them think they are too! Endulge me for a moment as I present an analogy from another profession.

Years ago, I held seminars entitled  “How to become your own financial planner and save!”. As the theme suggests, I had a few suggestions as to how investors could evaluate their resources and — hopefully — find better ways to put their money. The key to the seminar was not a detailed look into stock charts or tea leafs… what I asked people to do was to look at the potential motivations of the people who were offering their products. Continue reading “Your medical condition — be part of the solution!”

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RESEARCH ALERT: a ‘beautiful’ couple will have daughters!

the beautiful peopleAaaaahhh, I love research that confirms that I am a ‘beautiful’ person! Is it self serving to publish only those things that make you look wonderful? Nah!

Anyway, some musty old scientists have discovered that a beautiful couple will on the average produce daughters!

 Every ‘beautiful’ athlete I ever met had quite a grouping of children. In fact , for a very long time, I actually wondered if old shotputters ever produced anything but daughters? I have 3 and they are wonderful.

Back to the story.  In an article in the British Times by Steve Moxon , he quotes the scientists thus:

“We have shown two things,” said Dr Satoshi Kanazawa, who led the research. “Beautiful parents have more daughters than ugly parents, because physical attractiveness is heritable and because daughters benefit from attractiveness more than sons. ” Moxon quoted research as showing: “According to research, attractive parents are 26% more likely to have a daughter than a son as their first child. It is an inexorable process that has resulted in women becoming increasingly more attractive than men”.Dr. Kanazawa also added,“We have also shown that women on average are more attractive than men, because over evolutionary history the slight bias of beautiful parents to have more daughters has accumulated, so that girls have become more and more attractive than boys.” ow! Soooo, guys are getting uglier and uglier and girls are getting prettier and prettier. Yep, seems like that to me, too!

I know I made out well on that deal.

Roger Freberg

 

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to win fair maiden’s heart…. it starts with a laugh!

He Makes Me LaughIn “Who framed Roger Rabbit?”, the lovely Jessica Rabbit is asked why she loves Roger. Jessica sighs demurely, ” he makes me laugh!”

Young men always amuse me as they desperately trade witty ‘pick-up’ lines and completely miss the obvious. Women enjoy men who make them laugh, and men — not surprisingly — find women extra attractive if they laugh at the man’s jokes or remarks. Does this really surprise anyone?

Humor isn’t just joke telling, which can be rather boring and contrived. There are funny things happening around us all the time… sometimes all it takes is to notice it and point it out.

Some recent studies into this phenomenon have uncovered just what we expected with one or two subtle differences. First, men don’t really seem to care if their date is witty as long as she laughs at his jokes. Here is a warning for you serious types, women rated humorless men as less honest and less trustworthy and a bit more socially inept. They also rated these men as ‘rough’ (not in a desirable context).
Make her laugh... and it may be the start of something wonderful

Read the linked studies for yourself, but my take is women are attracted to men who are humorous in a variety of social circumstances. Think about it. In some small way, a little humor can lift that little gray cloud that sometimes finds itself over every woman’s head from time to time. It’s like keeping sun in the house and fresh flowers, it’s very hard to be sad… unless you work really hard at it. The man who can master this has gained a great insight and , maybe, the beginning of a great relationship.

Roger Freberg