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Yeah, baby… trust meeee! ….. I’m taking precautions

Trust me..... please!
Have you heard that one?

How many guys have become a daddy on the word of someone who either didn’t care or planned for someone else paying for 23 years of child support?

Get this concept… male contraception. Now, we’re giving guys the opportunity to lie, too!

In LiveScience.com , a person wrote an article to help men with contraception… unfortunately, the author was a woman …. and that seems like a conflict of interest to me. 

Hmmmm…. It’s like listening to a bunch of women talk about how much easier having a vasectomy is rather than having one’s tubes tide. Riiiiiight! The “V” word is too close to the infamous “C” word… and the only side effect is that they guy gains enough weight to earn a parking place at the super market. Oh… you didn’t know that?

Well, it may all sound like a good deal for women who would like to be free of  responsibility… but it is important to remember, ladies, when all is said and done… the guy goes home and he’s never pregnant.

Roger Freberg

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the Parent — the first and most important teacher

Hey Guys!
Have you ever noticed some of the criticisms directed at parents from the halls of academia? Parents are supposedly ‘too involved’ with their adult college children, too interventionist with their children’s teenage friends and appear to be looking over the shoulders of their child’s grade and middle school teachers?

Why do parents do this?

Obviously, because getting involved gets the results all parents want… better performance. It reminds me of the saying-or at least my version of it:

” if you let the village raise your child…
don’t be surprised if you end up with the village idiot.”

1997 Laguna Middle School Throwers

Most parents — if they try a bit — can find ways in which they can teach their children or help them ‘be all they can be.’ Ask youself: what do I know that could help my kids reach the next level?

Were you an athlete? artist? musician? good in math? Or are you a good observor of people? Can you protect them from ‘bad associations”? Can you offer advice? Can you help them avoid the mistakes we all made at their ages?

I was an athlete, and when my children decided that they wanted to participate, I offered to help them learn some of the skills, send them to camps and pop for whatever equipment they needed. The parent is the support unit… but the child has to do the hard work. As a ‘supporter’ you can teach, cheer and offer encouragement when they don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.

The photograph you see above is from 1997. I volunteered to teach some young male and female middle schoolers how to throw the shot and discus… part of the fun was coming up with a design for our ‘shirt’. It stated ‘Laguna Throwers tc’ (tc stands for ‘track club’). I really wasn’t feeling too good here, physically, I weighed about 427 lbs and I was about to go into a diabetic shock … in a couple of years. That is a story in and of itself. Anyway, it was a way to help my daughter… in a way that was meaningful to her…. the rest was history.

So, don’t worry about ruffling a few feathers… after all, none of your child’s friends or teachers have to live with your kid… if things go bad. Studies show that a man in your child’s life is what they need to stay focused, besides, if someone needs to be the ‘bad guy’, it might just as well be you! Remember, your time and investment to get your kids on the right road early on when they are young is so much less than waiting for a problem to develope when they get older…… then, it takes so much more effort and so much more money to help them get back on that road if they ended up following a unhappy path.

Good Luck,

 

Roger Freberg

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Happy 22nd!….. remember ALL your anniversaries

Roger and Laura at 17The 22nd of August means something special to me…. it is our anniversary as a couple. It has been 442 months since Laura and I went on our first date. Yep, we celebrate every month.

How did it begin? Well, I brought Laura to the 1969 USC vs. UCLA football game! I thought that this was the ‘acid’ test…. if she enjoyed this activity… well … she would be ‘perfect’.

Neither Laura or I are perfect…. but we never go to bed mad and we always remember who loves ya. We also enjoy doing a lot of activities together… I have enjoyed helping Laura with some of the challenging topics in her professional life, whether it is cleaning her office or searching the internet for her. It is the simple things we do for each other that are the most endearing.

One of the fun things about having monthly anniversaries…  are monthly reminders of how important each has been to the other over the years. It’s never so busy that one can’t say thanks or bring a flower or offer a kind word. It doesn’t take much to brighten anyone’s day.

Some of my friends have come around to the idea of how nice it would be to have someone around who really — as opposed to pretend — enjoys some of their activities. I think some of my buddies would be willing to even watch the Oscars if their wives would watch the Super Bowl with them. We still enjoy football games, together and as a family!

USC vs. Fresno State Game!

The lesson here to the ladies…. if you are a buddy to your husband… maybe he’ll remember some of the important dates in your life… starting with your birthday.

Roger Freberg

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Sleeping in the Nude … and other foolish things

Woman Sleping in the NudeIn a recent study, Gerhard Kloesh and his buddies at the University of Vienna reported that sharing your bed — if you are a male — could actually make you stupid.  In reporting this critical ground breaking discovery the NEW SCIENTIST reports:

“while men thought they slept better with a partner, and women believed they didn’t, actually both sexes had more disturbed sleep… lack of sleep … reduced their (men) ability to perform simple cognitive tests the next day.”

Hmmm… why are we listening to these guys? The population of Austria is going down not up anyway…

Another article chronicles the combative life of couples who sleep together in one bed (gasp!) and spoon, snore, sheet steal and even sleep in the nude! One couple even slept on separate floors, maybe they are taking a few lessons from the Austrians here.

Sooo, what do the bastions of pure feminine knowledge tell us about men and women sleeping together? Well, dear Abby takes the firm position that it is okay to sleep in the nude and it’s fine if you don’t want to…. she can really handle the tough questions! Shhhhheeeesh! I did find an interesting blog of some gal in Boston, which… I think is near Vienna. She gives her 10 reasons women have for not sleeping in the nude. I think 10 cats go with those 10 reasons.

So, ‘Dear Dad’ needs to offer his 10 reasons women should sleep in the nude:

1) SLEEPING IN THE NUDE PROMOTES WORLD PEACE!

I thought that liberal women may go for this one… I mean… it couldn’t hurt.

2) YOU WILL ALWAYS KNOW WHERE YOUR PARTNER IS!

Most male ‘partners’ will stand ready with a blanket in case of fire, earthquake, congressional election or any other natural disaster. Motivated partners are extra attentive.

3) YOU WILL MAKE YOUR PARTNER HAPPY!

I have yet to hear anyone say,”oh my god, can you believe it? ….She comes to bed nude every night!”… hmmmm… I think I did hear someone say that once….. but it was in Austria…. or in Harvard Square or at a Kerry rally.

4) EVER WAKE UP WITH AN IDEA AND NO SCRATCH PADS?

A simple magic marker on the night stand is all you need. Now what can we write on?

5) SPOONING BECOMES A CONTACT SPORT

enough said

6) WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS NOW…. IS LOVE, SWEET LOVE…

I think the Beatles said something like that and collectively, they have a lot of kids.

7) CONSERVATIVES ARE HAVING MORE BABIES THAN LIBERALS

They also don’t live in Boston or Austria…. and they don’t sleep with their cats.

8) VICTORIA’S REAL SECRET….

is the clothes never made it into bed

9) NIGHT CLOTHES ARE JUST PLAIN WEIRD

Have you ever seen the stuff people wear when they are running out of their homes at night because of an earthquake or something? Running out nude or in a blanket would be far less funny and far more memorable.

10) LIFE IS WORTH LIVING…..

 

Well, I hope you enjoyed my little ramble …maybe, someone in Boston can tell me if they shower in the nude?….. see you next time….

Roger Freberg

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Dear Dad presents: Hints to make your hubby happy!

the Good Wife from Good HousekeepingSomeone — who happens to be someone I love — forwarded an article posted on an internet site for unhappy academics & losers. (was that over the top — I can’t really tell?) 

You will first notice that the linked article — which first appeared in a 1955 Good Housekeeping Magazine — is full of underlining and unspoken feminist commentary. The article was entitled “The good wife’s guide.”

Rather than provide a critique on the article, which seems rather quaint by today’s standards, I will comment on the underlined passages by our feminist authority.

1)…”catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.”

Hmmm…. on the flip side, I don’t think there is a guy on the planet who doesn’t understand the saying,’ you know… you can’t be happy, UNLESS, she is happy!”

So, what is she saying? “Catering” to someone is degrading? Somehow, I visualize this woman as hopelessly single with 12 cats. (HINT: she is a Psych Professor — so she’s half way there)

2) …”show sincerity in your desire to please him.”

Where’s she been? This is the oldest lesson on the planet. Hey, when I have daughters sitting on my lap, feeding me chocolate chips cookies and telling me they looOoove me!… I know where this is going. I just say,”hun, what can I do to make your life better?” Cash works good and they’re on their way. Actually, my girls don’t have to work even that hard…. and my wife even less.

As for pleasing someone you care about, I can’t see anything wrong with that.

3) …”remember his topics of conversation are more important than yours.”

Well, everyone gets their turn in a fair world.

 Fortunately for me, I married someone who likes to talk about the Superbowl and not the Oscars… but if she did, I’d probably listen and be ‘in a happy place.’ Continue reading “Dear Dad presents: Hints to make your hubby happy!”