Is Arianna Huffington asking us to “Watch Our Neighbor?”

watch thy neighbor?

Well, I just got my daily email from Arianna Huffington announcing that I could now look into my neighbor’s political donation history. I find this a bit disturbing, some might find it intimidating… even threatening. Arianna is quick to qualify her support of this new system by saying: 

“We’re just using technology to make the public record much easier to access and, therefore, much more public.” However, I am a bit concerned with who and how this information will be used. I am not interested in seeing where the big boys & girls donate… they seem to play all sides.. I am worried about exposing all the little folks. I can just see one of my left wing nut neighbors dropping by with a little chat about my donation to  Rudy Giuliani  or the NRA while they attempt to exert a little neighborly pressure on the ‘incorrectness’ of this or that donation. This is not America. 

Yep, sounds a little like how folks used to watch each other back in the old days, right Comrade? Roger Freberg

Public Service Academy? training or indoctrination?

Some ideas just don't want to go awaySOMEONE suggested the concept of a “Public Service Academy”  Hmmm… although it sounds ‘innocent’ enough, I found one quote unsettling:

“I think just like our military academies, we need to give a totally all-paid education to young men and women who will serve their country in a public service position.”

What is of concern is something about a national academy for the training of all those entering Public Service. By te way, what do they mean by ‘public service’?…. & why do we need this, again? I suspect we are not talking just about Americorp or the Peace Corp… but developing ‘leaders’ for local, state and government office … and activists? Kinda like someone wants a ‘farm team’.

In politics today, many political leaders start off on the bottom rungs by volunteering for committees attached to some local political entity… a city or county. Often, many are asked to participate by local political groups, which is neither all that sinister or surprising. Although this is not necessarily a great system to help develop our future leaders, I am suspicious of making the process too streamlined and too easily manipulated & abused.

Roger Freberg

PS. By the way, don’t be fooled, this idea has been around before….

‘Real’ Men

a few good real men and women in Iraq!

Psychologists and feminists try to show how men are changing, being affected by the rising aspirations of women and the widening range of behaviors that are now being loosely referred to as acceptably ‘masculine.’ Unfortunately, too much of this is the wishful thinking of political folks who want to ‘prove’ that men and women really aren’t all that different… and that ‘gender’ is a ‘culturally constructed’ identity. Real men find this all so amusing….as do Real women.

Some people define ‘real men’ as ‘retros’ who cling to traditional values and attitudes regarding masculinity. However, even by the most liberal of interpretations, this still accounts for 60% or so of all the men worldwide. This is not a insignificant group to ignore… or dare I say, it is not an insignificant ‘market.’

Leave it to business folks to show why the understanding of the ‘traditional’ male image is so important today. By appealing to traditional men — called “retros” — in the study, advertisers and marketers are reaching the largest single subset of the male population and these folks will carry a heavy influence on the future. 

Leo Burnett — the famous advertising folks whose symbol is an apple ( during the early American depression, it was joked that someday Leo would be selling them rather than giving them away) came out  with a study  that asks the rhetorical question: “are marketers missing real men?” The simple answer is “yes”… with the exception of the great super bowl ads…. but then, beer companies know who buys their products!

Here’s the bottom line on the study:

 “…the majority of men surveyed (60 percent) aren’t caught up in this gender debate and live by a more traditional set of standards for assessing their masculinity. This larger group is more focused on defining themselves in the eyes of other men, largely by seeking respect and admiration for being successful in their professional life on one end of the spectrum, or their personal, family life on the other. The study dubs these men on the “Traditional Male Spectrum” as Power Seekers and Patriarchs, respectively, and contends they are largely overlooked by popular culture, the media and marketers.”

So what do I think? Although biology may not be destiny, and that our nature may be shaped via those who nurture us… science is beginning to demonstrate the uncomfortable notion that who we are is determined significantly by our biology. The concepts that gender and masculinity are socially constructed are dissolving and a science based understanding of our true nature is becoming better understood.

Regardless of the future roles of men on the planet, real men will continue to exist, in a large part, because real women will demand it.

Roger Freberg

PS. by the way, the picture above is of a few good men and a few good women in Iraq…

Love starts & maintains with a simple kindness

Love starts with many simple kindnesses

Every newspaper has them… folks who offer their advice on love, sex and relationships. Well, at the risk of offering unwanted advice: they are all so much a waste of time. Love is about sincere kindness and sensing the needs of the other person.

Here is an example that I noticed the other day:

While at the international airport in Los Angeles, I noticed a nice middle aged couple tucked away sitting in an alcove near. He was  obviously a bit sleepy and without saying anything, his partner stood up and moved to a large pillar where she sat on the ground. She motioned to him to place his head on her lap. He didn’t need much encouragement. He fell asleep with her gentle hands rubbing his temples.

People walked by and the reactions were interesting. Some were amused… and some were not. A few women looked on as if they were observing some sort of primitive example of male domination … and a few men passed by impressed by what they thought was a true alpha male at work.

What was transacting was a simple recognition of a need and the offering of a simple kindness…. some call this love. I have always felt that love starts with recognizing simple needs … and offering simple solutions.

Laura has always been there for me… even when I didn’t realize how sleepy I was.

Roger Freberg

The above picture is of Laura and I back in high school in 1970 sharing a bit of lunch… and yes.. my head was resting in her lap even way back then.