Hmmmm…. well, I actually lost three pounds at Jenny… but came home ate and drank a lot of water during workouts… that’s my story and I am sticking to it! Besides my diet ‘partenrs’ lost a ton… so shouldn’t that count for something? no?
Anyway, I was a bit under the weather this week so today was my first day working out in a week… sooooo
And we are having turducken on Christmas….. and….
Hmmmmmm…… I really do like the line they teach at West Point…”No Excuses, Sir/Mam”. This teaches the cadets to think ‘honestly’… which is a good lesson for anyone.
So what does this mean? I hit a plateau for whatever reason… and I did lose more at Jenny’s weigh in… but it also means that I have to work out too!
Eventually, most of us have an experience that tells us ‘life is short’ and that ‘we’re not dead ,yet’… so, we get off our butts and try to do some of the things that gave us pleasure in other days.
What struck me most was a comment he made to his doctor. He wanted his doctor to tell him to ‘go to Hawaii’ when his time was near. His doctor let him know it was time… but phrased it in a much kinder way…
“He said that right now, I’m in the best shape I’m going to be in, because in the coming months, my health will most likely deteriorate. He wasn’t saying go to Hawaii to die. He was saying, go now while you can enjoy it. Good advice.”
The holiday season can often be a melancholy time for some folks… ‘but you’re not dead, yet’… so enjoy the season …. and all the time you have left.
Seasons Greetings, Leroy
Being married to a Psychologist has made for many interesting experiences… every action I have ever taken has been completely analyzed… but as — I believe Freud said– sometimes a ‘cigar’ is just a cigar…. and a wife showing interest is a compliment after all.
ENTJ’s (masterminds) and INTJ’s (fieldmarshalls) are said to work well on the battlefield… assuming they are both on opposing armies… however, this isn’t intuitively supposed to be the best match-up for a couple. Personally, I needed an intelligent engineering-type woman ( who loves football)…. and Laura’s personality fit me perfectly. Laura and I have always enjoyed seeing how the other ‘thinks’… which I guess explains why we get along. I still seem to amuse her.
On the positive side, here is some things about Entj’s and Intj’s:
Likes looking at information from a global viewpoint, spotting patterns and relationships, that lead to an understanding of the key issues
Focuses more on possibilities for the future than the here-and-now
Enjoys change, challenge, and variety
If you check out the above linked articles , you can learn more about how these two personality types might conflict… none of this has been a surprise to either of us. As for me, I learned long ago to ‘let the wookie win.’
Here are some of the areas in which ENTJ and INTJ personalities may grate on others:
INTJ (Laura’s type) (1% of the population)
being single-minded or stubborn
not taking sufficient account of current realities
not expressing appreciation for the contributions of others, particularly where it hasn’t been fully competent
not delegating
making errors of fact, and appearing to make decisions irrespective of the facts
ENTJ (Roger’s type) (2% of the population)
issuing directives sometimes without explaining the reasons why
dominating the team
not taking account of others’ feelings
driving too hard
deciding too quickly and without sufficient consultation with others
not taking sufficient account of current realities
introducing too much change, and not leaving well-established, workable routines alone.
First, I won’t admit that all of these negative traits are completely accurate about ‘snookums’ and me … but I will just say that they are common characteristics of people who hold the INTJ and ENTJ personality types. I would admit that I have been guilty of some of the negative characteristics…
Besides, it is not always our differences or similarities that — in and of themselves — determine whether we succeed together as a couple or not… it is recognizing our similarities and building on them… and identifying the trouble spots and accommodating, compromising, acquiesing and limiting unnecessary conflict.
If you have a tendency to be a dominant type… just step back until it is really really necessary to say or do something. Sometimes it is better to let another person do it 70% correctly than jump in to close the gap to 100%. Laura has taught me sooo much.
This goes a long way in saying…. that since Laura thinks in the long term on certain emotional issues and some issues are very important to her… it was key to let her choose the house…. and… then we could move in with her…. that has been the secret to my happiness.
In truth, Entj’s and Intj’s are natural buddies… they are referred to as “Pals” in the literature… by this they mean that ” they work and play well together… with few natural conflicts”… looking at many of the other pairings… I am blessed… but then I always knew that.
Laura and I tend to send out cards every year that speak to some of the things we all areup to… as they say, ” a picture is worth a thousand words.” Although I am always amused at those who send these great tomes of family successes… you know what I mean… ( in truth, I am happier when folks are doing well )
” Jason was really miffed this year getting cheated out of the Heisman… but his well earned Nobel prize was waiting for him when he returned and Amanda was a little wild this year sharing her underpants with Britney who forgot hers.. but she is settling down after her Oscar… and my Husband Xerxies invented something called ‘fusion’… oh and that silly little award I got from Oprah as ‘woman of the century’… who would have believed it? so all in all it hasn’t been a bad year….. and how are you?”
However, I am willing to endure all of these in order to avoid the ones saying that Missy is finally getting her life together with the father or ‘fiancee’ of child number 4 now that she is out of rehab. Fiancee’? who are you kidding?
Soooo… our card was a ‘sporting theme’ representing all of the Universities in which one or all of us have attended… USC, UCLA, SMU, U of Florida, United States Military academy at West Point, University of Missouri at Rolla…. and Cal Poly.
Eventually, most of us have an experience that tells us ‘life is short’ and that ‘we’re not dead ,yet’… so, we get off our butts and try to do some of the things that gave us pleasure in other days.
