You left just when you were getting interesting…..

 Kristin in Iraq 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 
 

Back in 1997, my eldest daughter graduated from high school and entered the united States Military Academy at West Point. Her summer after graduation was spent doing the cadet version of ‘basic training’.

Kristin had entered the academy with a few challenges. Although stronger than many men, Kris did not like to run. It is to her credit that she conquered that and eventually ran in two Washington D.C. Marathons.

Some people think that she owes a lot to her McFee ancestors who never gave up, others feel it was all due to a unconditional love and acceptance of her mother…. but few knew the real truth as I do…. Kristin loves a challenge.

About this time, the New York Times magazine published an article on the summer basic training of the cadets referred to as ‘Beast.’ I wrote the following:

The Beauty of Beast Barracks

The letter had some unintended positive effects.

While many parents and others whined about this or that, my letter engendered sympathy for my daughter… and a protective brotherly nature from the often hazzing upper classmen. They thought that she had already been through enough having to grow up with me as her dad! ha! 

Funny, not much Kristin can’t do now.

Roger Freberg

Whose Women do Men Protect?

Fair Young Maiden , a bottle of run and thar be a full moon t'night, Luv!The Nature vs. Nurture debate goes on and on and don’t you just love it?

Some people just can’t let it go when faced with recent advances in the scientific community that appear to contradict their entire life’s work.

For far too long, one notion of how the world worked held sway. We were taught to believe that if you succeeded it was because of your environment and if you failed it was because of your environment… your ‘genes’ had nothing to do with it. Science is giving us a much clearer explanation, today.

We’re having to unlearn what we were taught and that is becoming most disturbing — even frightening — to those who have invested their career and their political life in one point of view. The resulting conflict between current dogma and the influences of new research in genetics shows up in the darndest places with often the most surprising of advocates.

A recent article by Shaunti Feldhahn and Diane Glass took opposing points of view in the discussion: CHIVALRY TODAY: SHOULD MEN BE EXPECTED TO PROTECT WOMEN. I leave the full reading to you in the attached link above, but allow me to offer this brief and rather incomplete & brutal summary: Shaunti says that it is in men’s nature to protect and Diane takes the position that women shouldn’t want male protection and — besides — it is a learned behavior. The truth is somewhat different from both.

There is plenty of research on the concept of ‘altruism’. This is a kinship phenomenon. As it applies to men, males will protect and defend women in their family… or whatever extension of ‘family’ they visualize. So, Shaunti is more correct by concluding that men will ( or we expect them to) protect women within their group.. and Diane is less correct in assuming that men will not protect women… with the exception that men are less likely to protect women outside their family group.

Unfortunately, folks like Diane appear to view these types of discussions with fear. They apparently worry that agreement in ‘hereditary’ issues and discussions might throw society back to the age in which women were relatively dependent and economically and sexually powerless and fret that the unintended concequences of her actions would be to find herself and all womenkind stuck in slavery once again. This is a case of fear driving politics and politics erasing science.

There is a chance that Diane only knows weenie men and cats, lots of them. I do seldom see women like Diane with anything like a man… more like a eunuch. I wrote about ‘Weenie men and the Women who love them”… I just hope you — Diane — aren’t one of them. Weenie men seldom make women happy in the long run.

Here are a few fans of Shaunti:

KLOPBLOG
I’d Rather Laugh than Cry
Spunky Chick’s book Club
Elizabeth
Respect or Love
Modesty Matters
DIRO
Patrick o’Connell

My Blog today reminds me of two things:

1) The world of science is opening doors we never dreamed… and all for the better… however, let’s hope we are wise enough to understand what we see…. ethics seems to travel slower than science.

2) Diane, to protect our culture and your world, you may need a few real men… and real women…… or we all may be viewing that horrific world yuo envision through the slits of a burka.

It’s never too late to see the world for what it is and change your point of view.

Roger Freberg

 

PlayPlay

Happy Birthday, Ladies!

Happy Birthday, Sweethearts!

I don’t know why I thought it would be fun for the two of you to
Kristin and karen having fun on vacation in hawaii 2006have the same birthday… and since Kristin was born via c-section… well, we actually had the choice… but your mother was most wise and realized the inherent problems in having two women sharing the same special moment in time… be it three years apart… so we opted to have Karen born on the next day… the 30th of September and Kristin was on the 29th.

It will be fun to have you both home again for the holidays… and I will fix that ‘Turducken’ that you always like… along with the special Andouille Stuffing, Potatoes au Graten, fresh local vegetables, the usual pies, Mom’s special rolls and be prepared for some ruthless games of MarioKart, Hearts and watchin’ football.

Happy 24th and 27th!

Dad

Get over it…. Men are just happier!

This was posted on an “Evolutionary Psychology’ list and passed on to me for a few laughs…
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MEN:

Men Are Just Happier People — What do you expect from such simple
creatures?
 

 

2 happy guys

 

Your last name stays put. 
The garage is all yours. 
Wedding plans take care of themselves. 
Chocolate is just another snack. 
You can be President. 
You can never be pregnant. 
You can wear a white T-shirt to a water park. 
You can wear NO shirt to a water park. 
Car mechanics tell you the truth. 
The world is your urinal. 
You never have to drive to another gas station restroom because this one is just too icky.  
You don’t have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt. 
Same work, more pay. 
Wrinkles add character. 
Wedding dress $5000.  Tux rental-$100. 
People never stare at your chest when you’re talking to them. 
The occasional well-rendered belch is practically expected. 
New shoes don’t cut, blister, or mangle your feet. 
One mood all the time. 
Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat. 
You know stuff about tanks. 
A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase. 
You can open all your own jars. 
You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness. 
If someone forgets to invite you, he or she can still be your friend. 
Your underwear is $8.95 for a three-pack. 
Three pairs of shoes are more than enough. 
You almost never have strap problems in public. 
You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes. 
Everything on your face stays its original color. 
The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades. 
You only have to shave your face and neck. 
You can play with toys all your life. 
Your belly usually hides your big hips. 
One wallet and one color for all seasons.
You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look. 
You can “do” your nails with a pocket knife. 
You have freedom of choice concerning growing a mustache. 
You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives on December 24 in 25 minutes. 

No wonder men are happier.
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Another Psychologist added in his post that ‘alcohol is 1/2 as toxic to men as to women.’

hmmmmm, profound comments, except….. I pay about $16 for a three pack of boxers at Costco…guess I paid too much?

Roger Freberg

For Some… it’s Back to school!

Karla whipped up this little diddy to wish her mom a good day on her first day of school in over 6 months…. yes, Karla thinks of her mother as a ‘hummingbird.’

Mom back ni class again!

At Cal Poly, professors are contracted — in general — to teach 3 of the 4 quarters a year. Laura always enjoyed teaching over the summer as it allowed us to travel in the spring for college graduations and track meets.

Laura took off Spring as usual then elected not to teach this past summer… which accounts for the 6 months off. Rough life?

Ah yes, the paychecks keep rolling in… which has my daughters convinced that being a college professor is the only way to go! Kristin and Karen were razzing their mother a bit as they have — let’s just say — very busy lives, too. The point wasn’t lost on the girls either, work hard in your youth and you may live to enjoy an easier life when you too are 54.

Sometimes it’s not how much money one makes that’s important… it’s how much time off one gets to do other valuable things… like wave at the neighbors as they go off to work. However, Laura did ‘invest’ her time well as she revised her “Discovering Biological Psychology” textbook for it’s second edition.

Have a good day, hun. I’ll keep the coffee warm for you.

Roger Freberg