In “Who framed Roger Rabbit?”, the lovely Jessica Rabbit is asked why she loves Roger. Jessica sighs demurely, ” he makes me laugh!”
Young men always amuse me as they desperately trade witty ‘pick-up’ lines and completely miss the obvious. Women enjoy men who make them laugh, and men — not surprisingly — find women extra attractive if they laugh at the man’s jokes or remarks. Does this really surprise anyone?
Humor isn’t just joke telling, which can be rather boring and contrived. There are funny things happening around us all the time… sometimes all it takes is to notice it and point it out.
Some recent studies into this phenomenon have uncovered just what we expected with one or two subtle differences. First, men don’t really seem to care if their date is witty as long as she laughs at his jokes. Here is a warning for you serious types, women rated humorless men as less honest and less trustworthy and a bit more socially inept. They also rated these men as ‘rough’ (not in a desirable context).
Read the linked studies for yourself, but my take is women are attracted to men who are humorous in a variety of social circumstances. Think about it. In some small way, a little humor can lift that little gray cloud that sometimes finds itself over every woman’s head from time to time. It’s like keeping sun in the house and fresh flowers, it’s very hard to be sad… unless you work really hard at it. The man who can master this has gained a great insight and , maybe, the beginning of a great relationship.
Roger Freberg