I guess I could have said,”don’t marry a professional man”, but this was the title of an article in Forbes by Michael Noer that caused a whole lot of ladies to get their panties in a twist.
Noer’s article states some facts — well known to social scientists, — which are viewed as a call to arms by the masses of women who think that they ‘can have it all’ without any tradeoffs. Funny how life is full of tradeoffs.
Many of us — old enough to remember — can hear the shrill voices of the liberal sages telling us that if a woman works… it will really be okay… and her children will actually benefit from the separation… because she will return ( ta da!) to the home and give her family ‘QUALITY time.’ I also remember when one couldn’t criticize the concept of ‘quality time’ without being accused of being an facist islamic fundamentalist…. or the equivalent.
Today, we realize that the much revered concept of ‘quality time’ is actually a crock. Nothing good came out of it. Women, men and families were not prepared for the challenges. Children went adrift, families suffered and many relationships disolved overnight.
I think this definition of ‘quality time’ makes a lot more sense in today’s realities:
QUALITY TIME: the time you spend with your family when you are not otherwise ignoring them.
The same is true with your ‘significant other’. There is no such thing as quality time…only time. The less time you spend with anyone, the easier it is to grow apart. Hmmm… Continue reading “Don’t Marry a ‘Professional Woman’ — Part deux”